How do you Define Success

Take a minute to go in and see how you define success. Your success is defined by:

* How much money do you have?

* To have a big house and an expensive car?

* How expensive your clothes are?

* To travel in first class on airlines?

* How attractive are you?

* How attractive your partner?

* How famous are you?

* To win or to be the best at something?

* How many beautiful people want to have sex with you?

* How many friends do you have?

* How much attention and acceptance you?

Unfortunately, often supports the media defines success in many of the methods described above.

But are you a success just because you have a lot of money, even if you had to use others to get it? What if you've made millions, and others have suffered as a consequence of your choices? What if you live in a big house and driving an expensive car, but find it hard to be loving to your partner or your kids - or for yourself?

What if you have defined success by how much you contribute to another or to society? What if you define success by how good you are to yourself and to others, and by what you contribute to the world? What if success is not defined by how many widgets you sell, but how many people you help, and how happy you are?

There are many people who find it easy to earn money or gain fame, but find it very hard to be good to themselves and their relatives. There are many people who are externally successful even act out in ways that are harmful to themselves and others. Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, and OJ Simpson comes to mind people who have achieved everything, but never defined success and intrinsic value by loving themselves and their families. Instead of the defined success by having sex or by whom owned.

What if these people had defined their success and their sense of value by how well they took loving care of themselves, so how were they to their families, and how much they contributed to society? Would they have chosen to harm himself and others to fill their emptiness and avoid the pain that they caused by their own abandonment?

Another example is Michael Jackson, who was incredibly painful to himself, constantly distort themselves rather than learning to be friendly and accepting of themselves. If he had learned to fully embrace his true self and to define their worth and success by his ability to love rather than by its appearance or approval, he may be alive today.

Film industry is filled with stars who have everything - money, fame, looks, admiration - and struggling with various addictions such as alcohol, drugs, food and sex. We see different stars on TV, constantly losing and gaining weight, or go in and out of rehab. Why are they so unhappy and empty, they are by turning to addictions?

Of course, everything they have not externally to fill the void inside. External success is actually doing something to fill the inner emptiness that leads to addiction, sexual addiction and other addictions, as well as anger, guilt and anger. External success is great for financial security and freedom to do what you want, but is a very happy person requires a different definition of success.

What if love, kindness, generosity, caring, compassion, empathy and understanding towards ourselves and others, and useful contribution to society has been lauded as a hallmark of success? What if our newspapers and news channels devoted their stories to people who had learned how to truly love themselves enough to extend their love out to others and contribute to the benefit of our planet? As if to support our own highest good, and the highest good of all was assessed more than money? What if kindness - to yourself and others - was your guiding star?

Chances are, you would know deep in your soul that you are a huge success - you do what you came to this planet to do!