Healing Love and Approval Addiction

Do you love or dependent upon approval?

* Do you often feel empty inside, if you're not in a relationship?

* Do you often feel empty inside, even if you are in a relationship but your partner is not paying attention to you?

* Have you anxious when a person you do not contact you when you expect them to?

* Have you anxious when your partner goes out of town?

* Do you tend to ruminate / occupy about what your partner or someone you are dating is thinking or doing?

* Do you get angry when someone does not say or do whatever you think they would say or do if they cared about you?

People addressed to addiction when they do not take responsibility to fill himself with the love they need. Love and approval addiction is like any other addiction: you use something external - in this case a second's attention to you - to fill the emptiness that is the result of your own devotion.

Most of us learned to abandon ourselves with various addictions, as we grew up, because:

* We had no role models for how to take loving care of ourselves.

* We could not handle the great feelings of loneliness and heartache that are often a part of childhood.

* We have not received the education we needed to handle the heartache, heartache, and loneliness in childhood.

When your parents or other relatives were unhappy or dissatisfied, what did they do? Have you seen them doing an internal process to discover the inner source of their stomach and move their thinking and behavior in order to make themselves happy? Did you see them console themselves with deep caring and compassion, when life's challenges was the reason for them, loneliness and heartache?

Or do you see them:

* Ignoring their feelings and numbing out with substances such as food, alcohol or drugs?

* Ignoring their feelings and numbing out with processes such as work, television, games or sex?

* Getting angry at someone, blame someone for their feelings?

* Falls apart, are very needy?

* For you to fill them up - being emotional incest?

Chances are, your parents or other relatives is not a role model personal responsibility for their own feelings and they may not have been sympathy for your feelings, so you might never have learned to do this for yourself. If you do not know how to manage your own feelings of loneliness, despair, heartbreak, sadness, sorrow, grief and helplessness in relation to others, so you learned to turn to various forms of addiction to handle these feelings, including dependence on others love, attention and approval.

HEALING LOVE AND APPROVAL ADDICTION

You can heal from the love and approval addiction! The following is a brief description of the 6-step Inner Bonding process that heals love and approval addiction:

The first step is to take a decision that you want the responsibility to learn how to create your own anxiety, depression, anger, guilt and shame with your own thoughts and actions, and that you want the responsibility to learn to nurture the painful feelings of life - the loneliness, heartache and grief that is so challenging.

The next step is to open to learn with deep compassion for yourself, connecting with a loving spiritual source of love and wisdom. If you are not connected with a spiritual source of love and wisdom, then you have to learn to do this. You can not take responsibility for your own feelings alone. You must be underpinned by a spiritual source.

Thirdly, you study what you tell yourself and how you treat yourself causing your anxiety, depression or anger - to discover the false belief that you are operating from. You must be tender and gentle with your deeper feelings of loneliness and heartache.

Rather, open to learn with your source for guidance, asking "What is in my highest good?" "What is the loving action against myself?" Open and listen to the answer.

Fifth, take the loving action on your own behalf.

Sixth, go back inside and see how you feel. If you do not feel better, then go back and make the process again until you feel relief.