Avoiding the Holiday Tension

Have you and your spouse seem to get into little arguments every holiday season? Holidays are just around the corner, and you can already cringe when you think about Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner. This can be a time that you want to look forward to, but you know in your heart that there will be more tension than peace and merriment. You can stop the vicious circle of tension and arguments in years, not go through another holiday season in each other's throats.

The best thing you can do to go in vacation, is to do away with all of your expectations. When you learn not to expect anything from your spouse during the holidays you will be more inclined to just let things roll off your shoulders when they bother you. When your spouse is not doing what you thought they would do, it is less likely to come to you because you did not really expect them to. You have to make up with your expectations and just decide what you will do.This will do away with many of the tensions you feel.

You should also focus on becoming more flexible. Many people have an idea of how they would like every holiday gathering, meal or activity to go. The fact is that very little actually goes to plan. The more people you are involved in an activity of any kind, the more likely that there will be problems or delays. Learn to relax and expect the unexpected, you will probably discover that life during the holiday will be much more enjoyable.

If you really need help from the people around you, be sure to let them know that. We often assume that the people around us, how we feel, but it is rarely true. You must be open and honest about what you want and need from the people around you when you do this you will know in advance whether they are willing to give you the help and support you need. This will do away with these surprises and frustrations during the holidays.

These all seem like really simple proposal, and they are, but they can be harder to actually follow up with. The reason for this is that you have a pattern of conduct that you have established for some holidays, and it can be difficult to break out of these patterns. If you really want to experience the holidays without stress, you must dedicate yourself to change your behavior and expectations, and you will probably discover that you have a much better holiday season, so will the people around you!