Why Are My Partners Always Needy

Serena Angelo married 15 years before the divorce. His marriage was Angelo an interim government that always tries to please Serena always try to get her approval and to avoid her disapproval. Serena was a price taker - allocation of responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him when he did not do what she wanted. For Serena was very uncertain, too uncertain to even work, so they are familiar Angelo economically.

Angelo felt very lonely in her marriage, that his decision led to a divorce.

"There was no love or love and reasonable demands," said Angelo tells me in our first phone session.

Shortly after the separation of Serena meets Barbara Angelo. At first Barbara was kind and loving, seemingly quite different than Serena. But within a few months, they will be demanding, often complained about Angelo not money enough time with her. When they were together, she was often depressed and complained that Angelo was not for her. This is what led to my helping Angelo.

"Why are my partners is always needy? Are there women who do not need?"

"Yes, there are many," I told him, "but the people come together in their common commitment. This means that the level of yourself and your careers and others are trying to keep them the same level to give women who attract - you try to take care of them. Want to needy women who do not prefer, you learn not to needy yourself. "

Angelo had never thought of themselves as needy. He did not understand that the monitoring of others is a form of control on the other person to him the love he had never learned to self-tail - the emptiness that he was to blame for his self-respect to stop the filling of trying.

As we have worked with ® Inner bonding process Angelo gradually discovered how much they appear. He saw that he was never given to his own feelings in the head and turned to various forms of addiction, instead of being present in his body. He realized that he never took responsibility, how empty he felt when he was up or self-evaluation. He began to realize that his own opinion, respect, addictions and other persons responsible for his feelings made him feel anxious, depressed and needy. He was shocked to discover that while he was a caretaker rather than a price taker and not the nature of the demands on others, like the women in their lives to him, he would be as much as they were gone - and so much behoeftigen.

Angelo quickly realized that if he was a loving and caring woman who took responsibility for themselves wanted to attract, he would have to learn to be loving and caring towards her. That was a challenge for him, which wrongly that he had learned to care for themselves is selfish and self-controllers. Because he was young and trying to care for themselves rather than her mother, she accuses him of being selfish.

As Angelo learned loving care of themselves to take, he began a different kind of woman. He was surprised and pleased that so many women see the world is not bad!